Do's and Don'ts of Intervention
Do Act from true concern or love for the addict.
Explain that the addiction stems from an illness.
Avoid hatred, hostility, condemnation, lecturing or moralizing. You are there to help him.
Tell him about the methods of treatment available for his disease.
Allow the addict to feel the full weight of the consequences of his drinking behavior.
Offer limited choices for the addict to consider, such as:
1. get help and retain your work position and role in the family or. . .
2. do nothing and possibly lose your job and possibly live alone.
Prepare to act upon the addict’s decision to seek help. Admission arrangements at a treatment facility should have been made (even provisions made for transportation, childcare, and pet care).
Remove the excuses for not acting now.
Prepare to act upon the addict’s decision not to seek help. The Intervention must not be perceived by the addict as a "cry wolf" exercise that will blow over in a few hours.
Give him hope that recovery is possible. Hundreds of thousands of addicts have already done so.
Don't Don't grow emotional and hostile about your own hurts. You may document your hurts, but maintain your focus upon the factual effects of the addict’s behavior.
Don't digress into possible reasons why the alcoholic drinks/addict uses, or why he drinks or uses so often. To seek such explanation is a futile exercise. It is enough to establish and have the addict accept the fact that his addiction has become a problem in his life.
Don't accept further hollow promises from the addict, no matter how sincere or tearful (haven't you been along this road before?). The addict’s commitment must be to accepting immediate treatment for his disease.
The key is to document, not judge. The events given should show only that there is cause for genuine and deep concern.
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